since I already wrote on the other blog I will share this thought on this one! =)
Just now as I was making dinner Jackson called to me and told me he had an accident ( of the bathroom kind) and he needed some help cleaning up. He for-warned me that it was " a big messy one"...nice, I know. So as usual I marched back there determined to be compassionate and maybe in my trying to be nice, we would figure out how to fix this problem. But much to my suprise he had not over estimate the size of this mess, every surface was covered with what I will refer to as " the unmentionable substance" to make matters worse he had destroyed my favorite eyes shadow and a thin layer of gray power covered the unmentionable substance making a difficult mess to clean up.
I wanted to get mad, I thought about a good spanking. But after about one second ( literally) I realized none of this would help him or me, so I turned to fixing me first. I wondered about my morning, how it could go from so wonderful and spiritual to this, yucky mess. As I washed sinkful after sinkful and toilet bowl after toliet bowl of unmentionalble substance out of clothes and rags and off of floors, walls, flat irons, and make up. I decided I was going to take Elder Maxwells advice, which I had learned earlier ( see other blog from today!) I was going to turn this experience into a learning experience and grow closer to Christ.......but how............
then all at once, the Lord blessed me with understanding. I thought of the Savior. He not only touch those with sins but he touches the dirtiest sickest among us. Over and Over he helped those who could not help them selves, those who were outcast because of things they could or could not control.
Of course he did not stop there, he did not just live and heal, he lived and died, he lived and thaught us how we should live, and he died that we might be able to live and make mistakes and still be able to find out way back to him through repentance.
In that moment I understood that while cleaning unmentionable substance was gross and stinky and hard, it was teaching me how to love my son in a stronger deeper way. I was serving him, expecting nothing in return, for I was only doing something he could not have. I felt his embarrassment at the situation and I knew I had no choice but to help, because I loved him. The savior felt our emotions, he loved us, so he did what we can not. he lived a perfect life, he died that our imperfections can be compensated for. I love my savior with a deeper love after today. I am grateful he has a superior knowledge and never chastises or hurts in a moment of frustration. I guess Elder Maxwell was right, all experiences can lead us back home if we let them. even if all we are doing is cleaning unmentionable substance.
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Saturday, October 24, 2009
not so super...
This last few weeks have been challenging ones for me. Its funny because when I first stated writing this blog I knew this time would be coming. I felt an over whelming amount of stress as the collision of crazy events was inevitably before me. I thought to my self " this is a true test of my super mom theories, we shall see how I get through all this"
well....... I have not flown through this time with flying colors..at all. In fact, most of the time I feel like I am hanging off a cliff by just the tips of my fingers. moment by moment, the change in my pockets, my jewelry and my shoes are dropping the bottomless pit below. I just keep hanging on looking for help, wondering how its possible to fix my situation. Obviously this is not how a super mom would be acting in the heat of battle. I have realized though, that sometimes outside uncontrollable things happen. while I may know how to fix things that doesn't always mean I can. SO maybe I am just hanging on, but maybe for right now, that has to be enough.
you remember a saying " practice what you preach"? I would have to say I am most guilty of not always practicing what I preach. I know what I need to do, I know what the Lords has taught me to do but some times doing it is the hardest part.
so here I am conflicted, between "practicing what you preach" and "just hanging on". Because some times the strength you need to practice what you preach just isn't there. As I wrote this it occurred to me that maybe its not physically possible for me to be super woman at this time. However, if I because a super woman mentally and spiritually at least I would be moving in the right direction. I also realized the answer always lies with in the problem. So here I go again, I may be hanging on the cliff of a bottomless pit, but I am ready to take a deep breath- relax, call on the Only source which can give me strength beyond my own, asking for help to get off the edge. Time to have my feet planted on solid ground! even though my current chaos has no near end in sight, I am ready to let my pride go and let the Lord do the heavy lifting, because I just physically can't. I should have known it all along, but as a person who is stubborn, some times it takes me longer then it should to figure things out.
well....... I have not flown through this time with flying colors..at all. In fact, most of the time I feel like I am hanging off a cliff by just the tips of my fingers. moment by moment, the change in my pockets, my jewelry and my shoes are dropping the bottomless pit below. I just keep hanging on looking for help, wondering how its possible to fix my situation. Obviously this is not how a super mom would be acting in the heat of battle. I have realized though, that sometimes outside uncontrollable things happen. while I may know how to fix things that doesn't always mean I can. SO maybe I am just hanging on, but maybe for right now, that has to be enough.
you remember a saying " practice what you preach"? I would have to say I am most guilty of not always practicing what I preach. I know what I need to do, I know what the Lords has taught me to do but some times doing it is the hardest part.
so here I am conflicted, between "practicing what you preach" and "just hanging on". Because some times the strength you need to practice what you preach just isn't there. As I wrote this it occurred to me that maybe its not physically possible for me to be super woman at this time. However, if I because a super woman mentally and spiritually at least I would be moving in the right direction. I also realized the answer always lies with in the problem. So here I go again, I may be hanging on the cliff of a bottomless pit, but I am ready to take a deep breath- relax, call on the Only source which can give me strength beyond my own, asking for help to get off the edge. Time to have my feet planted on solid ground! even though my current chaos has no near end in sight, I am ready to let my pride go and let the Lord do the heavy lifting, because I just physically can't. I should have known it all along, but as a person who is stubborn, some times it takes me longer then it should to figure things out.
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
why I feel so obsessed with super mom....
this whole project has been interesting, I was loosing a little steam when The Lord sent me a reminder of why I need to figure this out. Its not actually about becoming super mom, I think we all already are. It about realizing the POTENTIAL we have right with in our self. Just today I had a mom who I love deeply say to me. " you just can't do it with out help". she was talking about her self. She unfolded her life ( in a very abbreviated version) and she talk about her support group. Now she feels Like her support group is gone and she thinks with out those people she can't be all she needs to be for those she loves.
In The kindest way I know how, I would like to say I think she is wrong. Yes, we all need support; but when we are in our hardest times it will not matter how many individuals rally around us if we do not have faith in God and a strong belief in our self. Amazing stories are told of men and woman through out the ages who did incredible things against all odds. sometimes there was NO support system so they reach to a higher source and then looked with in themselves and moved forward.
What I was reminded today is that there are very few women out there who believe in them self, who truly believe with all their heart in a supreme being who wants them to succeed. I ,with all these women, falter in more moments then I would like to admit, but I know even though I am not perfect, I still can share what little I have learned. So this is the mission. To teach each and every women her true identity and then step back as they make miracles happen!
In The kindest way I know how, I would like to say I think she is wrong. Yes, we all need support; but when we are in our hardest times it will not matter how many individuals rally around us if we do not have faith in God and a strong belief in our self. Amazing stories are told of men and woman through out the ages who did incredible things against all odds. sometimes there was NO support system so they reach to a higher source and then looked with in themselves and moved forward.
What I was reminded today is that there are very few women out there who believe in them self, who truly believe with all their heart in a supreme being who wants them to succeed. I ,with all these women, falter in more moments then I would like to admit, but I know even though I am not perfect, I still can share what little I have learned. So this is the mission. To teach each and every women her true identity and then step back as they make miracles happen!
Monday, September 28, 2009
simple things.
Well To be honest I have been feeling like a failure. All my goals I set are great goals and I feel like they are realistic, however, I have been feeling like I was not carrying them out with as much grandeur as I had hoped.
J and I cooked and hung out together all friday, it was wonderful. we re-connected in many ways, But I never did any thing BIG with him.
On saturday I showered L with the thing her heart always desires, commpliments. But we had abusy afternoon so I only was able to feel like HALF of the day was a success.
On Sunday, I made homemade bread, and spagghetti from scratch ( litterally I picked the tomatoes to make the suace from my back yard) feeling like I was showing love only to realize that M feels love in other ways then a home cooked meal, its more time together.
In the end I was feeling like I just did an O.k job witht he goals and if we are going to be totally ohnest ( which we are) my spiritual goals failed miserably. Thankfully I have a father in Heaven who watches over me very carefully. I feel like this is a time of learning for me, that he is guiding my path right now. I am learning the things that will help me to be succesfull as a mother and wife for the rest of my earthly life.
In the lesson in Relief Society A Young Woman shared a thoguht which showed she is wise beyond her years It was thins. " in my life some times it is hard to squeeze in time to spend with my family but Its the simple things that create lasting relationships" not the big ones. I have had those words in my mind ever since, if each day I keep at my little daily list making sure to include extra hugs, smiles,stories and most importantly putting them before myself, I can help my family to feel how much I love them one day at a time. So I will keep the scheduale I have in place but I am going to feel good about keeping it simple to! =)
The other thing I re-learned ( itsn't that how life goes? we learn and re-learn the smae things over and over until they finnally stick?!?) it that there are many good things in life. the is the concept of good, better and best..which am I choosing? Its good to blog, but if your kids are sitting next to you wishing you would read to them which is better? Its great to relax, but what is the BEST thing for you to be doing moment to moment. A super woman understands what the best things in life are and works hard to put those things first. The trick is just figuring them out. =) So now I must end this blog becuase I am off to put the best things first!
J and I cooked and hung out together all friday, it was wonderful. we re-connected in many ways, But I never did any thing BIG with him.
On saturday I showered L with the thing her heart always desires, commpliments. But we had abusy afternoon so I only was able to feel like HALF of the day was a success.
On Sunday, I made homemade bread, and spagghetti from scratch ( litterally I picked the tomatoes to make the suace from my back yard) feeling like I was showing love only to realize that M feels love in other ways then a home cooked meal, its more time together.
In the end I was feeling like I just did an O.k job witht he goals and if we are going to be totally ohnest ( which we are) my spiritual goals failed miserably. Thankfully I have a father in Heaven who watches over me very carefully. I feel like this is a time of learning for me, that he is guiding my path right now. I am learning the things that will help me to be succesfull as a mother and wife for the rest of my earthly life.
In the lesson in Relief Society A Young Woman shared a thoguht which showed she is wise beyond her years It was thins. " in my life some times it is hard to squeeze in time to spend with my family but Its the simple things that create lasting relationships" not the big ones. I have had those words in my mind ever since, if each day I keep at my little daily list making sure to include extra hugs, smiles,stories and most importantly putting them before myself, I can help my family to feel how much I love them one day at a time. So I will keep the scheduale I have in place but I am going to feel good about keeping it simple to! =)
The other thing I re-learned ( itsn't that how life goes? we learn and re-learn the smae things over and over until they finnally stick?!?) it that there are many good things in life. the is the concept of good, better and best..which am I choosing? Its good to blog, but if your kids are sitting next to you wishing you would read to them which is better? Its great to relax, but what is the BEST thing for you to be doing moment to moment. A super woman understands what the best things in life are and works hard to put those things first. The trick is just figuring them out. =) So now I must end this blog becuase I am off to put the best things first!
Friday, September 25, 2009
first day of the journey to becomeing better....
Its 8:08 in the A.M and even though my morning is usually in full swing by now, today feels different somehow. I think I am anxious to get this project underway! So I decided since the first two Qualities on the list are ( in my mind) the most important I can start working on them. so they are this:
1. Has a sense of spiritual strength about her
to accomplish this one I am going to study my scriptures this morning and tonight both in stead of just once a day. I am lucky to have learned some incredible study habits so I will be using those techniques to get the most out of my time. Also prayer is essential when actively learning to be close to Heavenly Father. So prayers won't be missed. I will continue this until these thing become habit and I don't have to actively think about them I just do them naturally.
2. Has a great love for her family and those around her, you can see this in the way she talks and acts.
This one is the one I am going to have to think about all day. I think to get this to be a stronger part of my life I need to be looking for ways to show love for my family and Friends, and even those I run into wherever I go. Its strange to say, but I think the hardest place to do that is at home. While I love my family, sometimes I just assume they know it. So I don't go out of my way to do extra special things for them. I am going to pick one person a day I want to focus on and see how that goes for a week and then re-evaluate my progress. I also am going to work really hard on the way I speak with my husband and children. Soft tones, Kindness and an open heart are a essential to changing the feeling in my home.
the week will go like this:
today-J.J.L
Sat- o
Sun-M
Mon- J.S
Tues-J.J.L
Wed- O
Thurs-M
Fri- J.S
I will keep you updated day to day how this goes. I know I am going to need help from I higher source because the whole point of being a superwoman is this: becoming a person who is more then their natural self. Today I am starting with making my home feel the way I want it to by working from me out. I am going to have to change some bad and lazy habits I have acquired, it will be interesting to see how this journey unfolds. I can't wait!!
1. Has a sense of spiritual strength about her
to accomplish this one I am going to study my scriptures this morning and tonight both in stead of just once a day. I am lucky to have learned some incredible study habits so I will be using those techniques to get the most out of my time. Also prayer is essential when actively learning to be close to Heavenly Father. So prayers won't be missed. I will continue this until these thing become habit and I don't have to actively think about them I just do them naturally.
2. Has a great love for her family and those around her, you can see this in the way she talks and acts.
This one is the one I am going to have to think about all day. I think to get this to be a stronger part of my life I need to be looking for ways to show love for my family and Friends, and even those I run into wherever I go. Its strange to say, but I think the hardest place to do that is at home. While I love my family, sometimes I just assume they know it. So I don't go out of my way to do extra special things for them. I am going to pick one person a day I want to focus on and see how that goes for a week and then re-evaluate my progress. I also am going to work really hard on the way I speak with my husband and children. Soft tones, Kindness and an open heart are a essential to changing the feeling in my home.
the week will go like this:
today-J.J.L
Sat- o
Sun-M
Mon- J.S
Tues-J.J.L
Wed- O
Thurs-M
Fri- J.S
I will keep you updated day to day how this goes. I know I am going to need help from I higher source because the whole point of being a superwoman is this: becoming a person who is more then their natural self. Today I am starting with making my home feel the way I want it to by working from me out. I am going to have to change some bad and lazy habits I have acquired, it will be interesting to see how this journey unfolds. I can't wait!!
Thursday, September 24, 2009
A few qualities a super woman should have....
So First I have to write an apology. Can, I lied to you. I told you these Ideas were straight from my head. But after I hung up the phone from you I realized that I was no better then Herod at that moment. stinkin' pride, it got me yet again. I must admit that while I have no "pattern" I am following, these Ideas seem to just appear in my brain. My whole life I have had experiences like this, mostly concerning how to deal with my three angels. But this whole "super woman, you can do it" thing has felt very natural. My brain thinks about them all day and thoughts just appear out of no where. I had hoped in writing it down I might be able to work through my ideas in a safe way with some one I trusted giving me advice. then perhaps I can find a way to share them with those who might need some uplifting encouragement.
But I know that not all these ideas are coming straight from me. I feel divinely guided which the reason I feel Motivated enough about this subject to move forward with it some how. I apologize to you for taking credit for ideas that I feel are coming from a divine source.
Now on to todays subject:
Qualities of a super woman.
It occurred to me that I am ready to stop talking about why we are super and start actually BEING super. But if I want to know how to become super I probably need to list some qualities that I have seen create super woman. In my life I have been priviledged to know true super moms who have dedicated there life to all things good and right. They are not just an out side shell of a beautiful car, they are the big engine, nice interior and stereo to boot. they are what you look at and say " maybe someday I will be like ________." Now when I wrote that infamous ( to me) blog about what to do to make my life more effective, some one commented and said " if it seems to good to be true, it is, you just don't know what their lifes are really like." Well let me say I understand that saying, and I only HALF agree.
As a teenager I looked to those who were older and thought they were perfect, they were smart and beautiful and spiritual, they were my version of perfect. At some point you come to realize however, that no one is truly perfect and unfortunately, after time, you learn that the person you talk to when you are in public and the way they are when no one is watching are like two different people. so often we march around is if a mask were on our face, acting like something we are not. The best thing I have learned from the super woman I know is that, you have to be comfortable being you, just you, ALL the time. The only way to do this is to have that inner peace that you are doing every thing you CAN do to act as the Lord has asked of you in your life. Now notice I did not say you were perfect, I just said you weere doing your very best to do all you could. see this is a mistake we often make. no body perfect, we just need to all admit that right now, but what you do with the flaws you have is what creates a perfect person.
So what do you do with those flaws? well as I see it there are three options:
1. give into them.
" I just am a messy person and everybody around me is just going to have to deal with it."
" lose me temper, so what? I have tried to control it but its just one of those things I guess I can't fix."
2. Perfect them RIGHT NOW or deny they are there.
"what are you talking about? I read my scriptures every day"
" I just can't move on until I figure this out becuase until I get this fixed I can't be happy."
" OH, I would NEVER do ________"
3. accept we have flaws, work on a few actively,especially if they are ones that require the assistance of a priesthood leader, don't wait to correct those ones. But it is important to realize that as we look to the Lord and work toward perfecting the qualities he has asked us to " faith, hope, charity and love" ( D&C 4:5)
that some if not all of our flaws will self correct with time, diligence, and repentance.
You see the first two options are dangerous because they create a judgmental flawed person, these ways of thinking are not healthy for our self esteem. Not to mention Giving into a flaw is a sin in its self. The Lord made his children for a divine purpose, to give into a flaw is a denial of who you truly are. Its like saying, "Yes, you have told me I am great and can do anything If I follow you, But I don't believe you." Denial of a problem will never fix it, it's only a lie to the worst two people possible, your self and your Lord. Trying to perfect on the spot will only lead to disappointment and frustrations, let me say this though, to ell you self each time something like: " WOW! I burned those cookies really bad! Looks like next batch will be a great opportunity to learn how to improve my cooking skills." Now this is admitting the problem working on it on the spot but not expecting total perfect, allowing you to learn perfection.
O.k So after that little tangent, let me share my list of qualities:
1. The first thing a super woman must have is a sense of spiritual strength about her. She is armed with the Armour of God. She prays, she knows her Father in Heaven and she loves him. She reads the sacred books which she in privileged to have in her home. Books that many Prophets handed down to each other, guarding them, carefully writing the most important things in them, knowing that she is blessed in a time to have access to them whenever she chooses.
2. This woman Loves her family and all those around her. You see it in the way she tucks her daughter hair behind her ear, or the love in her voice as she describes he husband. The Gentle way she speaks when her children are mis behaving. The way she reaches out to those around her where ever she goes, even in the smile she gives to every one around her. Her view of her family is eternal. She looks to the Lord in all occasions asking for guidance. She has an understanding that Her actions now, effect there future forever.
3. She is their protector from all things evil, and yet she teaches them of the world, allowing them to experience things when and where it is safest for them so they can see how life works which allows them to be properly armed when the time comes for them to fight their own battles.
4. She is organized. She understand a home of chaos, is a home with frustrations. A house of Order is a house of love and prayer. She can see that her sacrifice of time and beautiful hands are a worthy offering, showing her love and dedication to her family.
5. She teaches always. Perhaps her title could be "teacher-mother" ( thank you sister Kathleen wilson) in each instance of life she is looking to teach her children, for that is her most important responsibility of all. when her children are hurt, she teaches, when her children show love she teaches, as her children cross the street, or bend to see see a row of ants, or speak with people around them, she teaches. She does this in words and example.
6. She is proactive not re-active. Instead of letting life come at her she takes the reigns and lead life. When she sees her spouse start to struggle, she prays, and works on helping him. If she can see her son becoming upset with something, she works through it with him, using the moment to teach. she plans things, fun and worth while. This mind set allows a peaceful home. Most parents wait to react, even when they can see something coming, instead of thinking about it and looking for solutions, they take it head on and just deal with itin the moment. These times do not become situation of growth for them or their children, they simple become, "that one time when..." My good friend taught me that Instead of being a lazy parent and yelling from across the room to do something, If I would get up, walk over and speak the the child kindly the child would react kindly to, I must admit this works 99% of the time, the 1 % it doesn't is my child excising their free agency. lol.
7. she has boundaries for her children, she loves them to much to over indulge them in any way, whether its with food, chores, boyfriends, cell phones, bad attitudes, a mother sets limits lovingly and expects her children to respect them.
8. She is always learning. She shows her children she understand how important it is to read, to learn. she uses her knowledge in her daily life, to help with school work, spouse work problems, and to create a better life for her family.
9. She does not procrastinate, when things come her way she gets them done, so that she doesn't have to have the feeling that she is always playing "catch up" or " just barley keeping her head above water" one of the things I have notices is the super women I know only watch a little bit of T.V I suppose its becuase in order to be super they don't have time to be lazy very often.
10. A super woman is aware that she can not do EVERYTHING so she is very careful about the things she commits her and her family to. only choosing the very best for her family and the precious time they have together.
11. She takes care of her self. Maybe she is not the hippest gal on the block, but she respects her self enough to be well groomed, to sleep an appropriate amount of time, and eat some sort of decent diet. She wants to take care of her self so she can be healthy and strong allowing her to live the highest quality of life possible. she does not run her self into the ground, at times she may have to say no, even if that means her child can not be a super star every day of the year. She helps her children to learn to respect her and their father when she respects her self.
O.k these are a few of them, I am sure the list could go on. I realize I just described a perfect person. please realize that in the journey to become super woman I am not expecting any one to become perfect. But I know a few woman who embody almost all of these qualities, and its because they Put the Lord number one. They are woman who you feel their love for you emanating from their very center, its like feeling a warm glow when you are around them. they are the choicest of God daughters, you can feel it. I believe each of us have this same potential. Its just about setting priorities and working with worthy goals. These goals are nothing like the worlds. in fact as I Begin this journey I fully expect my world to change. But I know in the Long run Any hard ships I endure will be in sake of a better higher cause, for my family and my self. so .......where to start? lol
But I know that not all these ideas are coming straight from me. I feel divinely guided which the reason I feel Motivated enough about this subject to move forward with it some how. I apologize to you for taking credit for ideas that I feel are coming from a divine source.
Now on to todays subject:
Qualities of a super woman.
It occurred to me that I am ready to stop talking about why we are super and start actually BEING super. But if I want to know how to become super I probably need to list some qualities that I have seen create super woman. In my life I have been priviledged to know true super moms who have dedicated there life to all things good and right. They are not just an out side shell of a beautiful car, they are the big engine, nice interior and stereo to boot. they are what you look at and say " maybe someday I will be like ________." Now when I wrote that infamous ( to me) blog about what to do to make my life more effective, some one commented and said " if it seems to good to be true, it is, you just don't know what their lifes are really like." Well let me say I understand that saying, and I only HALF agree.
As a teenager I looked to those who were older and thought they were perfect, they were smart and beautiful and spiritual, they were my version of perfect. At some point you come to realize however, that no one is truly perfect and unfortunately, after time, you learn that the person you talk to when you are in public and the way they are when no one is watching are like two different people. so often we march around is if a mask were on our face, acting like something we are not. The best thing I have learned from the super woman I know is that, you have to be comfortable being you, just you, ALL the time. The only way to do this is to have that inner peace that you are doing every thing you CAN do to act as the Lord has asked of you in your life. Now notice I did not say you were perfect, I just said you weere doing your very best to do all you could. see this is a mistake we often make. no body perfect, we just need to all admit that right now, but what you do with the flaws you have is what creates a perfect person.
So what do you do with those flaws? well as I see it there are three options:
1. give into them.
" I just am a messy person and everybody around me is just going to have to deal with it."
" lose me temper, so what? I have tried to control it but its just one of those things I guess I can't fix."
2. Perfect them RIGHT NOW or deny they are there.
"what are you talking about? I read my scriptures every day"
" I just can't move on until I figure this out becuase until I get this fixed I can't be happy."
" OH, I would NEVER do ________"
3. accept we have flaws, work on a few actively,especially if they are ones that require the assistance of a priesthood leader, don't wait to correct those ones. But it is important to realize that as we look to the Lord and work toward perfecting the qualities he has asked us to " faith, hope, charity and love" ( D&C 4:5)
that some if not all of our flaws will self correct with time, diligence, and repentance.
You see the first two options are dangerous because they create a judgmental flawed person, these ways of thinking are not healthy for our self esteem. Not to mention Giving into a flaw is a sin in its self. The Lord made his children for a divine purpose, to give into a flaw is a denial of who you truly are. Its like saying, "Yes, you have told me I am great and can do anything If I follow you, But I don't believe you." Denial of a problem will never fix it, it's only a lie to the worst two people possible, your self and your Lord. Trying to perfect on the spot will only lead to disappointment and frustrations, let me say this though, to ell you self each time something like: " WOW! I burned those cookies really bad! Looks like next batch will be a great opportunity to learn how to improve my cooking skills." Now this is admitting the problem working on it on the spot but not expecting total perfect, allowing you to learn perfection.
O.k So after that little tangent, let me share my list of qualities:
1. The first thing a super woman must have is a sense of spiritual strength about her. She is armed with the Armour of God. She prays, she knows her Father in Heaven and she loves him. She reads the sacred books which she in privileged to have in her home. Books that many Prophets handed down to each other, guarding them, carefully writing the most important things in them, knowing that she is blessed in a time to have access to them whenever she chooses.
2. This woman Loves her family and all those around her. You see it in the way she tucks her daughter hair behind her ear, or the love in her voice as she describes he husband. The Gentle way she speaks when her children are mis behaving. The way she reaches out to those around her where ever she goes, even in the smile she gives to every one around her. Her view of her family is eternal. She looks to the Lord in all occasions asking for guidance. She has an understanding that Her actions now, effect there future forever.
3. She is their protector from all things evil, and yet she teaches them of the world, allowing them to experience things when and where it is safest for them so they can see how life works which allows them to be properly armed when the time comes for them to fight their own battles.
4. She is organized. She understand a home of chaos, is a home with frustrations. A house of Order is a house of love and prayer. She can see that her sacrifice of time and beautiful hands are a worthy offering, showing her love and dedication to her family.
5. She teaches always. Perhaps her title could be "teacher-mother" ( thank you sister Kathleen wilson) in each instance of life she is looking to teach her children, for that is her most important responsibility of all. when her children are hurt, she teaches, when her children show love she teaches, as her children cross the street, or bend to see see a row of ants, or speak with people around them, she teaches. She does this in words and example.
6. She is proactive not re-active. Instead of letting life come at her she takes the reigns and lead life. When she sees her spouse start to struggle, she prays, and works on helping him. If she can see her son becoming upset with something, she works through it with him, using the moment to teach. she plans things, fun and worth while. This mind set allows a peaceful home. Most parents wait to react, even when they can see something coming, instead of thinking about it and looking for solutions, they take it head on and just deal with itin the moment. These times do not become situation of growth for them or their children, they simple become, "that one time when..." My good friend taught me that Instead of being a lazy parent and yelling from across the room to do something, If I would get up, walk over and speak the the child kindly the child would react kindly to, I must admit this works 99% of the time, the 1 % it doesn't is my child excising their free agency. lol.
7. she has boundaries for her children, she loves them to much to over indulge them in any way, whether its with food, chores, boyfriends, cell phones, bad attitudes, a mother sets limits lovingly and expects her children to respect them.
8. She is always learning. She shows her children she understand how important it is to read, to learn. she uses her knowledge in her daily life, to help with school work, spouse work problems, and to create a better life for her family.
9. She does not procrastinate, when things come her way she gets them done, so that she doesn't have to have the feeling that she is always playing "catch up" or " just barley keeping her head above water" one of the things I have notices is the super women I know only watch a little bit of T.V I suppose its becuase in order to be super they don't have time to be lazy very often.
10. A super woman is aware that she can not do EVERYTHING so she is very careful about the things she commits her and her family to. only choosing the very best for her family and the precious time they have together.
11. She takes care of her self. Maybe she is not the hippest gal on the block, but she respects her self enough to be well groomed, to sleep an appropriate amount of time, and eat some sort of decent diet. She wants to take care of her self so she can be healthy and strong allowing her to live the highest quality of life possible. she does not run her self into the ground, at times she may have to say no, even if that means her child can not be a super star every day of the year. She helps her children to learn to respect her and their father when she respects her self.
O.k these are a few of them, I am sure the list could go on. I realize I just described a perfect person. please realize that in the journey to become super woman I am not expecting any one to become perfect. But I know a few woman who embody almost all of these qualities, and its because they Put the Lord number one. They are woman who you feel their love for you emanating from their very center, its like feeling a warm glow when you are around them. they are the choicest of God daughters, you can feel it. I believe each of us have this same potential. Its just about setting priorities and working with worthy goals. These goals are nothing like the worlds. in fact as I Begin this journey I fully expect my world to change. But I know in the Long run Any hard ships I endure will be in sake of a better higher cause, for my family and my self. so .......where to start? lol
Monday, September 21, 2009
A super womans Kryptonite
All super women have one two things in common. The first is the source from which they gain their strength. No matter how old,young, wise,unlearned, wealthy or poor, with or with out children we all gain our strength from having a sure knowledge of our true identity as daughters of God. This divine heritage is the same for each of us. Our father in Heaven is the only source to which we can turn for that real, no matter what happens- you can make it through it, kind of strength.The second thing we have in common is the one I want to focus on today.
Kryptonite was the colored gem that removed all of supermans powers from him when we was any where near it. Even a small portion of this dangerous substance could debilitate him and render him usless as a person and super hero. We also have a kryptonite, but ours is not some magical gem our is called:
The scripture give us countless examples of pride and the crippling effect it has on people as individuals and even on entire civilizations, like the people who built the tower of Babel.
One of my favorite stories of Pride taking down some one I learned in a late night institute class, its in the New Testament. The Acts chapter 12:21-24. Herod Is mad with some men for Letting Peter get out of prison ( never mind that Peter was freed by and Angel of God! lol) so these men needed to make Herod happy so they had a large celebration. At this event, Herod gave a speech and when he was finished the people praised Herod and said:
" it is the voice of God, and not of man".
Herod apparently really liked the people saying this because imediatly an angel of the Lord
"smote him, becuase he gave not God the glory:and he was eaten of worms, and gave up the ghost. (24) but the word of God grew and multiplied."
WOW, Herod was so consumed by his pride that the Lord took him out. It must be a serious sin to not understand where our true place in life and to elevate our self to more then we are. One of my favorite saying was one from a dear friend she said " always remember when you breath in that you depend on the Lord for every thing even the air, and when you breath out that you depend on him to breath in again." Ending Herods prideful life didn't seem to hurt the Lords plan either as is noted in vrs.24. because when some one is full of pride they are useless to the Lord.
As a super woman, pride is a most dangerous thing. when we let it seep into the cracks of our crazy life, we begin to careless about the things of the Lord and more about the things of the World. Our super powers are gone, as we are told in D&C 121:37:
"....but when we undertake to cover our sins, or to gratify our pride, our vain ambition....in any degree of unrighteousness, behold, the heavens withdraw themselves; the spirit of the Lord is grevied;..."
with out the Lords spirit in our life's we have to depend solely on our own natural man self, which we know is an "enemy to God". Just like Kryptonite, even a small amount of pride removes all our strength. As human we have flaws that change us make us thing differently, yesterday I refered to them as my enimes, but none of them are as debilitating as pride that's why it is our kryptonite. Be careful. That's what we must always remember with pride. Be sure of who you are! As you learn that, you realize you are nothing, nothing with out a merciful God.
Kryptonite was the colored gem that removed all of supermans powers from him when we was any where near it. Even a small portion of this dangerous substance could debilitate him and render him usless as a person and super hero. We also have a kryptonite, but ours is not some magical gem our is called:
P R I D E.
The scripture give us countless examples of pride and the crippling effect it has on people as individuals and even on entire civilizations, like the people who built the tower of Babel.
One of my favorite stories of Pride taking down some one I learned in a late night institute class, its in the New Testament. The Acts chapter 12:21-24. Herod Is mad with some men for Letting Peter get out of prison ( never mind that Peter was freed by and Angel of God! lol) so these men needed to make Herod happy so they had a large celebration. At this event, Herod gave a speech and when he was finished the people praised Herod and said:
" it is the voice of God, and not of man".
Herod apparently really liked the people saying this because imediatly an angel of the Lord
"smote him, becuase he gave not God the glory:and he was eaten of worms, and gave up the ghost. (24) but the word of God grew and multiplied."
WOW, Herod was so consumed by his pride that the Lord took him out. It must be a serious sin to not understand where our true place in life and to elevate our self to more then we are. One of my favorite saying was one from a dear friend she said " always remember when you breath in that you depend on the Lord for every thing even the air, and when you breath out that you depend on him to breath in again." Ending Herods prideful life didn't seem to hurt the Lords plan either as is noted in vrs.24. because when some one is full of pride they are useless to the Lord.
As a super woman, pride is a most dangerous thing. when we let it seep into the cracks of our crazy life, we begin to careless about the things of the Lord and more about the things of the World. Our super powers are gone, as we are told in D&C 121:37:
"....but when we undertake to cover our sins, or to gratify our pride, our vain ambition....in any degree of unrighteousness, behold, the heavens withdraw themselves; the spirit of the Lord is grevied;..."
with out the Lords spirit in our life's we have to depend solely on our own natural man self, which we know is an "enemy to God". Just like Kryptonite, even a small amount of pride removes all our strength. As human we have flaws that change us make us thing differently, yesterday I refered to them as my enimes, but none of them are as debilitating as pride that's why it is our kryptonite. Be careful. That's what we must always remember with pride. Be sure of who you are! As you learn that, you realize you are nothing, nothing with out a merciful God.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
feels good to be super woman..
since starting this project I have had on my mind the thought.."how would super woman handle this?" a lot. Or what can I do today to make me more like a super woman/mom??
I don't have any huge changes to report. but I will say I am finding more joy looking out side of my own personal bubble. I worked at the school yesterday. I helped random kids tie shoes and get the principle for a girl who was in serious emotional distress. I felt like a super hero as I treated each child as if they were the most important mission I would ever go on. I included the way I treat my children in this pattern of thinking to ( which is technically what I should Do every day) my own children. For some reason thoguh thinking about it in this way with the thought of being more then my normal self I felt more determination to be better and stronger. I acted as a nurturer and teacher. It felt good. I am anxious to grow these budding attributes, so that they can become a true part of me not just a hopeful glimpse of wha I COULD one day become..
All that being said, I learn something of my form of cryptinight ( I have no Idea how to spell that I will research it). So let me thank my Heavenly Father for the blessings he given me. For all that I am, even though it seems a weak offering most of the time, All that I am is because of him. That I have no doubt.
I don't have any huge changes to report. but I will say I am finding more joy looking out side of my own personal bubble. I worked at the school yesterday. I helped random kids tie shoes and get the principle for a girl who was in serious emotional distress. I felt like a super hero as I treated each child as if they were the most important mission I would ever go on. I included the way I treat my children in this pattern of thinking to ( which is technically what I should Do every day) my own children. For some reason thoguh thinking about it in this way with the thought of being more then my normal self I felt more determination to be better and stronger. I acted as a nurturer and teacher. It felt good. I am anxious to grow these budding attributes, so that they can become a true part of me not just a hopeful glimpse of wha I COULD one day become..
All that being said, I learn something of my form of cryptinight ( I have no Idea how to spell that I will research it). So let me thank my Heavenly Father for the blessings he given me. For all that I am, even though it seems a weak offering most of the time, All that I am is because of him. That I have no doubt.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
day 1.
What makes me a super mom?
1. I did not buy or learn my super powers, I inherited them....
This one is easy for me. I am not super by my own making, no super mom is, if she thought it was her own work she would not be a very Strong super mom. I am super because I am A daughter of God, What I have to do is to learn to tap into what is already in my blood Realizing this helps me to understand how and why I can be super. I also learn that in this world all woman have the potential to be super moms. When I acknowledge this it helps me to understand my purpose in this life, and what are the really important missions I have to accomplish in my life.
2. I happen to have super powers (Yes you heard me) I have super powers....
As a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter day Saints I have a gift. If I do as I promised my heavenly Father Gives me a personal Guide, The third member of the Godhead. HELLO!!??! If having a constant guide, a gift from heaven that call tell me all thing necessary for my day to day life isn't a super power I don't know what is. This gift has been know to come in many forms even in thoughts and feeling. these are essential to being a super mom, when you feel lost and frustrated.
Not to mention the fact that the Lord gives each of us Our own personal super powers. They might also be called "gifts". For Some its the gift of speech or the gift of music, others create beauty every where they go. Good thing too. Can you imagine if all super hero's had the exact same powers?? BORING. Just like a super hero, a super mom has her areas of expertise.
3. I am a torn woman....
All super people seem to have multiple personalities. I am no different. When I am armed with my super powers Every things comes out beautifully. when I am in this super mom way of life and things are falling apart they have a magical way of getting fixed. some how what was a tragedy at first, ends up even better then what ever the original out come was to be. Its like an exciting action scene where the miscalculation of a hero cause a problem, but almost with out any real effort ( or so it seems) they end up with a even better and more spectacular ending where they catch the bad guy, get the girl and revamp a city park all in one swoop.
But sometimes I get selfish, I don't feel like being super. So I try to be "normal", like everybody else. but what I have found is that this attitude brings an even bigger mess and the magical fix is no where to be found. These times are when when I try to live my life the way the world recommends. I lower my personal standards, I make material things important, I put My own well being and desires in front of others.
It really doesn't sound super when its printed in black and white and Yet I believe most super people do this so often they don't even realize why they can't find happiness, and they definitely don't see the super powers that are just waiting to be discovered..
4. as with all super people, I have an arch enemy...
Actually I have several. They have names like: lazy, indulgent, selfishness, white lies, gossip, money.....really I have so many enemies like this, I could go on and on. these are my enemies they are also my flaws, which become my enemies once I see them for what they are.
But you see I have this one enemy that just won't go away. no matter how I try to get rid of him he is always there. Always coming back. Like all classic enemies he is consumed with one thing, my destruction. Its a pretty big one you know. If he can take me down chances are he takes down my three angels which the Lord has placed in my care. He might even get a righteous priesthood holder in the deal. It will have an effect any one with whom I am connected to as well. taking down a super mom is his every thought and the ultimate goal. he has many names, but the most common ones are Lucifer, Satan and the devil and he will stop at nothing to have me taken down.
I am feel grateful to have a knowledge of my super powers because I see many Moms out there trying to be super, but they don't know from which source to turn to, they have to rely on themselves and the battle with Lucifer is ever constant. I see some falling, and even more sad is that even as they work to defend their precious charges, Lucifer is powerful and unless you have your super powers on you at all time, he has a high chance of winning. It breaks my heart as I watch this scene, it helps me to understand once again that being super mom is the only option any more. its what I must do.
I suppose this is another super quality. Super heros don't make them selves, they are given gifts and at some point they realize their place in life and they come to an understand that there is no looking back to the old ways. to be a super hero is a burden, but one which all super heros bear for those they love and for those they will yet love. As a super mom there can be looking back- I must become super, for when you look back, that gives the enemy a way in.....
1. I did not buy or learn my super powers, I inherited them....
This one is easy for me. I am not super by my own making, no super mom is, if she thought it was her own work she would not be a very Strong super mom. I am super because I am A daughter of God, What I have to do is to learn to tap into what is already in my blood Realizing this helps me to understand how and why I can be super. I also learn that in this world all woman have the potential to be super moms. When I acknowledge this it helps me to understand my purpose in this life, and what are the really important missions I have to accomplish in my life.
2. I happen to have super powers (Yes you heard me) I have super powers....
As a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter day Saints I have a gift. If I do as I promised my heavenly Father Gives me a personal Guide, The third member of the Godhead. HELLO!!??! If having a constant guide, a gift from heaven that call tell me all thing necessary for my day to day life isn't a super power I don't know what is. This gift has been know to come in many forms even in thoughts and feeling. these are essential to being a super mom, when you feel lost and frustrated.
Not to mention the fact that the Lord gives each of us Our own personal super powers. They might also be called "gifts". For Some its the gift of speech or the gift of music, others create beauty every where they go. Good thing too. Can you imagine if all super hero's had the exact same powers?? BORING. Just like a super hero, a super mom has her areas of expertise.
3. I am a torn woman....
All super people seem to have multiple personalities. I am no different. When I am armed with my super powers Every things comes out beautifully. when I am in this super mom way of life and things are falling apart they have a magical way of getting fixed. some how what was a tragedy at first, ends up even better then what ever the original out come was to be. Its like an exciting action scene where the miscalculation of a hero cause a problem, but almost with out any real effort ( or so it seems) they end up with a even better and more spectacular ending where they catch the bad guy, get the girl and revamp a city park all in one swoop.
But sometimes I get selfish, I don't feel like being super. So I try to be "normal", like everybody else. but what I have found is that this attitude brings an even bigger mess and the magical fix is no where to be found. These times are when when I try to live my life the way the world recommends. I lower my personal standards, I make material things important, I put My own well being and desires in front of others.
It really doesn't sound super when its printed in black and white and Yet I believe most super people do this so often they don't even realize why they can't find happiness, and they definitely don't see the super powers that are just waiting to be discovered..
4. as with all super people, I have an arch enemy...
Actually I have several. They have names like: lazy, indulgent, selfishness, white lies, gossip, money.....really I have so many enemies like this, I could go on and on. these are my enemies they are also my flaws, which become my enemies once I see them for what they are.
But you see I have this one enemy that just won't go away. no matter how I try to get rid of him he is always there. Always coming back. Like all classic enemies he is consumed with one thing, my destruction. Its a pretty big one you know. If he can take me down chances are he takes down my three angels which the Lord has placed in my care. He might even get a righteous priesthood holder in the deal. It will have an effect any one with whom I am connected to as well. taking down a super mom is his every thought and the ultimate goal. he has many names, but the most common ones are Lucifer, Satan and the devil and he will stop at nothing to have me taken down.
I am feel grateful to have a knowledge of my super powers because I see many Moms out there trying to be super, but they don't know from which source to turn to, they have to rely on themselves and the battle with Lucifer is ever constant. I see some falling, and even more sad is that even as they work to defend their precious charges, Lucifer is powerful and unless you have your super powers on you at all time, he has a high chance of winning. It breaks my heart as I watch this scene, it helps me to understand once again that being super mom is the only option any more. its what I must do.
I suppose this is another super quality. Super heros don't make them selves, they are given gifts and at some point they realize their place in life and they come to an understand that there is no looking back to the old ways. to be a super hero is a burden, but one which all super heros bear for those they love and for those they will yet love. As a super mom there can be looking back- I must become super, for when you look back, that gives the enemy a way in.....
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
becoming super mom....
1. PRAY
2. Write
If had enough hands with enough fingers to count how many times some one told me " wow, sounds like your super mom!?" I might Actually be able to get done everything I have to do in the right amount of time and still create a peaceful pleasant home. But the fact is, I don't, not by myself that is. Most of the time it may appear that We are working time miracles in our home, but actually things are falling apart all over.
The Brigette I happen to know is pretty weak actually, she yells to much, despises the dishes and laundry, eats as much junk as possible and thinks the thoughts "What about me?" all the time. When I look in the mirror at this version of me there is nothing super about it. This mom stinks, when I am this version of me, Life doesn't flow smoothly along like a nice Sunday drive, instead life feels more like a bumpy dirt road with a driver who can't drive stick! I despise this person, and I get frustrated with her because she always sneaks into my days!
Not long ago in search of becoming a better mom I blogged about my crazy life. I was looking for uplifting words, Ideas of how to become better. My sweet Friends were quick to give advice and instructions as to how THEY would live MY life. I was told to cut things out, to make list and "wait for the correct season". These answers only mad me mad. I knew my heart was in right place, I knew each of the commitments I had currently made were things I needed to do and could not cut out no matter how over whelming they felt. So I thought and thought about what to do. I realized there was only one awnser, I must become super mom/woman.
"BUT HOW?" this is something I have asked my self over and over and over again these last few months. I don't know all the awnsers, but I intend find them. Only one person that I am aware of even knows this blog exists and For now I intend to keep it that way. Each day I will share my discoveries as I work on becoming the super mom I must be, for my sweet children and husband and in the end even for me.
2. Write
If had enough hands with enough fingers to count how many times some one told me " wow, sounds like your super mom!?" I might Actually be able to get done everything I have to do in the right amount of time and still create a peaceful pleasant home. But the fact is, I don't, not by myself that is. Most of the time it may appear that We are working time miracles in our home, but actually things are falling apart all over.
The Brigette I happen to know is pretty weak actually, she yells to much, despises the dishes and laundry, eats as much junk as possible and thinks the thoughts "What about me?" all the time. When I look in the mirror at this version of me there is nothing super about it. This mom stinks, when I am this version of me, Life doesn't flow smoothly along like a nice Sunday drive, instead life feels more like a bumpy dirt road with a driver who can't drive stick! I despise this person, and I get frustrated with her because she always sneaks into my days!
Not long ago in search of becoming a better mom I blogged about my crazy life. I was looking for uplifting words, Ideas of how to become better. My sweet Friends were quick to give advice and instructions as to how THEY would live MY life. I was told to cut things out, to make list and "wait for the correct season". These answers only mad me mad. I knew my heart was in right place, I knew each of the commitments I had currently made were things I needed to do and could not cut out no matter how over whelming they felt. So I thought and thought about what to do. I realized there was only one awnser, I must become super mom/woman.
"BUT HOW?" this is something I have asked my self over and over and over again these last few months. I don't know all the awnsers, but I intend find them. Only one person that I am aware of even knows this blog exists and For now I intend to keep it that way. Each day I will share my discoveries as I work on becoming the super mom I must be, for my sweet children and husband and in the end even for me.
Friday, April 10, 2009
maybe not a thought a day?
well so maybe I won't write a thought a day. Things have been so very busy lately I sometimes think there is no time to even...well think. But to night I am very grateful for the Lords mercy. He knows me, he loves me. I am grateful that even when I am completely unworthy ( which lets face it, I will not be perfect in this life, so the un-worthy-ness level is usually pretty high) he loves me and trust me enough to still have the privilege of participating in his work. I love his work. I love sharing the things I learn with those around me. Even If they can feel a just small amount of happiness and peace- the kind he has blessed me with, well that's when I feel like my purpose here is full. when I get to see the joy of his love in others faces, for me there could not be much better then that. The funny thing is that it can be anyone, I mean ANYONE, and sometimes the very most rewarding people to share his love with are the people in my very home.
Monday, March 23, 2009
thoughts
I am being reminded of why I need to be SO careful with every thought I think and here is why:
"how could a person possibly become what he is NOT thinking? The divinity that shapes our ends is indeed in ourselves. it is one's very self"
Pres. Spencer W. Kimball
"Why of course you will be held accountable for your thoughts, Because when you life is completed in mortality, it will be the sum of your thoughts."
(President George Albert Smith, Sharing the Gospel with Others, Pg. 63)
and then of course
" As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he"
Proverbs 23:7
So what they are saying is not only will we be judged by our thoughts, but the very person we become will be a product of our thoughts...hmmmm, there is something to ponder huh?
"how could a person possibly become what he is NOT thinking? The divinity that shapes our ends is indeed in ourselves. it is one's very self"
Pres. Spencer W. Kimball
"Why of course you will be held accountable for your thoughts, Because when you life is completed in mortality, it will be the sum of your thoughts."
(President George Albert Smith, Sharing the Gospel with Others, Pg. 63)
and then of course
" As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he"
Proverbs 23:7
So what they are saying is not only will we be judged by our thoughts, but the very person we become will be a product of our thoughts...hmmmm, there is something to ponder huh?
A new blog
Tonight I am sitting here writing quote after quote on thoughts and how they work according to our church leaders. So in following with some of the techniques I have learned in the past and combined with the technology of today, I am going to use this blog to write thoughts about quotes and scriptures here everyday. You can read it if you want, but if you don't, I am not going to get sad about it. this is an extra place to put my spiritual thoughts down so I can have record of them, But if some one finds peace in it along the way all the better. so here we go a boo thought a day!
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